The Spiritual Tourist
As a professional Clairvoyant Medium, I am asked a lot of questions about people’s dreams. My journey actually started and continues mainly via dreams so I thought I’d answer some frequently asked questions in an article series on dream techniques.
When I was growing up, I had nightmares, as most do. My psyche had developed a kind of super monster, a cross between predator, alien and a few other nice ones. Mr monster would turn up most nights and I really needed some help but didn’t know where to turn to. Lucky for me, or right timing, I joined a meditation class and someone there knew a lot about how I could help myself and rid my dreams of this horrible monster. I’d also had a lot of predictive dreams, snippets coming true but other parts being way off in regard to reality. Another common theme was death in my dreams, and this I was terrified of. I also found some reading materials and Carl Jung, a forefather in Psychiatry, was and is still an excellent resource. Jung talks about all in a dream being part of the self, as a projection. He also stated that this is akin to waking life but that is a whole other conversation. This gave me some relief in regard to the dreams I’d been having about the death of a family member. By the way, it’s 25 years later and he’s still around, he just made some big changes in his life at that time, as did I. Perhaps a projection of my own life but the predictive part of dreams is still interesting and something I will go into later in this series. You can change your dreams, enter into them with lucidity and actually change them!! When I say this most people will respond with saying they can’t remember their dreams well. This is step 1. However, before step 1, let’s cover some basics.
Sleeping and Dreaming – Some Basics The field of sleep research has discovered that we have 90 minute sleep cycles. We dream in all cycles but as we sleep further into the night, we go deeper and deeper into what you may have heard of, REM sleep. This is the time we dream the most and usually at cycle 4 – 4.5 – 7 hours into sleep. You may wake up during the night but you will probably notice that it is the last dreams before waking that are the most vivid or the ones you will remember more so. That is because by then you are completely in the dream cycle. Even someone who tells you they don’t dream does, they just don’t remember. Everyone has approximately 4 dreams each and every night! The earlier cycles are usually a rehash of the day just gone, what we focused on just before sleep, a book, movie, news story or our childhood. What we want to interact with and remember is that last dream, the one that we can create our own adventure in!! Step 1 – Remembering your dreams Normally after going to bed we allow the mind to just go all over the place for a while, and then fall asleep in a state of semiconscious inner chitchat. What we can do to remember our dreams is to set the intent right before and as we go to sleep. This will help also with having nicer dreams hopefully, less worry in them and more scope for the mind to explore the adventurous flying dream or perhaps a dream of a successful goal! To remember your dream better set the intent ‘I remember my dreams well’ or a similar affirmation and say this over and over again. If you are wanting a more peaceful dreamscape or to change an outcome of a bad dream you can intent for that too. Maybe try something like ‘Tonight, I am going to fly to Europe and sit on the Riviera with a cocktail’. It really doesn’t matter the intent, it will affect your dreams. Doing this for a while, even for a few nights, will show you results. Set your intention strongly at bedtime, repeating over and over without any other distractions and you may well find yourself at the airport, flying off to Europe with no monsters coming for the ride! The other key to remembering your dreams is taking notice when you wake up. To remember a dream we must wake up during the dream so you will usually remember them if you set your alarm or if you are disturbed by outside stimuli, or maybe the dream shocked you too. The sleep cycle patterns mentioned in ‘Sleeping and Dreaming – Some Basics’ can help but are not essential. I personally don’t set an alarm unless forced and I more go with the flow of my dreams. You will have heard about doing a dream journal. This is also not necessary but will help. I just focus and write dreams that really struck me. Another great technique is to talk to someone about your dream upon waking. This will help you remember it if you prefer not to write it down. Some use the tape recorder on their phone so they can go back later and remember the dream more. You may have noticed that we lose the dream a few minutes after waking. Staying still upon waking will help you to focus and remember even one key point of the dream, a strange set of stairs, a meadow with a particular fence or perhaps a person’s face. I find that scenery works better for my memory but people report back about all sorts of things and it’s up to you to experiment and find out what works best for you. Picture what you have chosen from your dream and remember it over and over in your mind, don’t let it go. This is called a trigger and later on, you can use that ‘trigger’ to have your mind remember a lot of the dream. Remembering your dreams can take time and I have experienced ups and downs in this process. Sometimes I’m just too busy to focus and I have to go back to the middle and almost start over. It’s a bit like practicing an instrument then putting it down for a length of time, you will no doubt get a bit rusty. Even if you do this once a week you will see an overall improvement in your dream memory. Once you have progressed, any amount, it’s time to start doing the exciting stuff which we will explore in the upcoming articles.
Are you finding meditation difficult? Are you ready to give up? Well don't! Meditation isn't as hard as you may think. After 25 years of exploration into Spirituality and doing many Clairvoyant Medium readings, I have found that it is usually just an expectation of how you should see during a meditation that needs to be overcome. Many years ago, participating in a meditation group gave me more than I had bargained for! Having had a few life changing predictive dreams, I had become extremely curious about the power of the mind. Living at the beach, age 19 in 1992, I was looking for a new hobby and a way to meet people in my local area as well as quenching my thirst into all things unknown. I joined up for a beginners group in a course for 'Meditation'. I was all set to delve in for just 2 hours a week for 8 weeks. Let's see I thought, let's take a looksie and I'll gauge all this for myself. There was about 25 people in the group. A popular course Iand this helped me to relax, maybe I wasn't so strange afterall. After a few weeks, I was at a loss. There was no meditating going on in my corner. Each week, the members of the group were describing what they saw. Things like meadows, crystal caves, beaches and forests. The list went on, with all telling of their wonderful and seemingly vivid experiences. I wasn't seeing these things, "I am a failure, maybe meditation isn't for me". Just before I was going to quit, someone asked the question of how we were seeing in the meditation as she didn't feel she was seeing anything at all. "Like a memory" one said, "like my imagination" said another and the clincher, "I am not seeing my meditation like I see when I dream, it's different". It was then that I had that light bulb moment. My own expectations were what were blocking me and having me think I was this big failure. I had been meditating all along and had been for years without even realising it. Experiences like my mind wandering off when doing dishes or in the bath, daydreaming while at work. Experiences that had freed my mind and let me have a break from reality and definitely giving me a feeling of relief from stress. You can use meditation to increase the focus of anything in your life. Whether that be a feeling of peace, well being, material goals or spiritual insight. You can focus on anything you want to attain, even failure if that is your accidental focus. "Be careful what you wish for" as they say. There really are no limitations apart from those you set yourself. I use meditation to tap into my subconscious and therefore see the future, the afterlife or anywhere I choose for my mind to go. Meditation is proven to at least ease the many stress related illnesses and attitudes in our modern day society. Slowing the mind and giving it a breather most certainly can't hurt. Give it a go and see the results for yourself!